When Words Hurt
I heard rumors about me. They were ugly, dark, and deep. I almost wanted to applaud their creativity because the truth would’ve been less interesting if they simply asked me; if they truly cared to know how I was doing instead of whispering behind my back at my glazed over eyes and kicking me with kind smiles.
One of the most valuable lessons you will ever learn is to encourage yourself. I often hear people say “I feel like no one likes me.” “Nobody supports me.” I understand how frustrating and hurtful that can be. However, if no one acknowledges gold, does it cease to be gold? You can do everything perfectly according to some unseen standard and someone will still say “I don’t know what it is, but there’s just something about them I don’t like.” Jesus is a perfect example of this. The very people he walked with, fed, and healed, all shouted for him to be crucified and some denied him. This is the same world and same humans. Nothing’s changed. It’s just presented differently now.
There’s a quote I read once that’s stayed with me and it states, “people are subjects of love, not trust.”
Trust is very powerful yet fragile. A lot of emotional pain comes from the breaking of trust, that’s why betrayal hurts so much. When it bothers you that someone or some ones don’t like you, perhaps you’re trusting them to show you your value. How can you trust people who are like sheep, who follow what’s trending or what everyone else is saying without ever getting to know you or confirming with you. Are these the people you will trust to show you your value, especially when someone else died for you before you were even born and given the opportunity to reject or accept him. Do you know how valuable you must be for someone to die for you knowing you may never accept them?